Physical touch is an emotional communicator to our children. We know that babies who are cared for but not cuddled and held, develop physically but don’t thrive emotionally. If your young child requires lots of touching, hugging, and physical closeness, he is communicating how he wants to be loved. If your teenager is a toucher, even if it takes the form of playing, grabbing you from behind, or a hand on your shoulder, he is letting you know that touch is important.

“And they were bringing children to Him that He might touch them…and He said, “Permit the children to come to me, do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.”     Mark 10:13

Chapman encourages us to, “Observe your children. Watch how they express love to others. That is a clue to their love language. Take note of the things they request of you; it is often in keeping with their own love language. Notice the things for which they are most appreciative and know that they are also indicators.”

I know you love your children. Every child is different and has different needs in order to feel loved and have a full emotional tank. Chapman believes much of our children’s misbehavior can be traced to an empty tank. Learn your child’s primary love language. As she gets older teach her to speak yours and those of other family members. The level of love, cooperation, and fun in your family will rise dramatically!

I trust these posts have been helpful in learning about your child’s love language – and perhaps something about your own as well. Family Night by the Book lessons are designed with your family in mind. We will walk with you as you develop deep and lasting relationships with your children. Invest in your family today.

Blessings,

Beth and Dr. Ron