How are you doing with the heart gifts? Stick with it – the pay off will be GREAT! Connecting with your kids requires practice, imagination and creativity, and trial and error. Just make a start. Conversation and communication are where it’s at this summer. Here are some tips for talking and listening from Turansky and Miller to bring you all closer.

1. Greetings are the oil that keeps relationships cordial. “Hi!”  “Good morning.” “How are you doing?” This is a good place to start. These small acts of graciousness ( a lovely word and habit to instill in your family – often lost in our society. Beth) can open up opportunities for more conversation and closeness.

2. Facts. sharing information promotes connectedness. think of a couple interesting things you could share with your child. Sometimes children are hesitant to share because parents become critical or use it as a chance to lecture. Try asking, “What was the highlight of your day?”

3. Opinions and Judgments “I like your hair today.” I think the Braves will make it to the playoffs.” When we share our opinions it involves risk. People – our kids – might disagree with us. Look for subjects to open conversations and ask your kids to share their opinions too. Avoid subjects that are likely to start an argument and look for ways to affirm your child’s opinion. “That’s a really interesting point of view.” “I can see how you came to that conclusion.” are phrases that show you are genuinely listening and interested in what your child is thinking and feeling

4. Emotions Facts and opinions often have emotions behind them. “I bet that hurt.”  “I can tell you’re really excited about that.” acknowledge your child’s feelings. “I’d be disappointed too.” ” It sounds like that makes you angry.” These statements show empathy and connect you to your child’s heart. Ask your child, “How do you feel about that?” of “Does that bother you?” Invite your kids to share their emotions.

5. Spiritual Closeness Praying, worshipping, and creating a sense of spiritual fellowship are the deepest levels of communication. Ask your kids, “How can I pray for you?” They may not have an answer. Pray for them and let them know you are doing so. Ask the to pray for you too. Strengthening your spiritual connections will create more opportunities to discuss heart issues.

Family Night by the Book helps your family develop habits of spiritual closeness. Each lesson is specifically designed to create conversation, sharing, and learning. We give you lots of great ideas to continue the conversation in the Through The Week section. Start a new thing this summer that will bring HEART to your family all year long.

Blessings,

Beth and Dr. Ron